Mind The Gap: The truth about desire and how to futureproof your sex life by Karen Gurney

I have been doing a lot of dog walking in an attempt to a) walk dogs and b) rebalance after a lot of time spent in front of a screen. Whilst doing so I have gone back over books old and new and put them on Audible to listen to while I tramp around the countryside.

One such book was Naomi Wolf - Vagina. If we could just get the first part of three parts I would be happy as it is brilliantly informative about the neurostructure of the female sexual organs. The second and third part of the book seems to abandon all medical sense.

However that I would really recommend reading or listening to is Mind the Gap. It discusses a whole host of topics around female desire and gives great advice on how to maintain and improve satisfaction.

Gurney's writing is very accessible, explaining things clearly without being patronising (and backed up by research, too). There are a few typos/some words appearing twice which could be amended in a future edition.

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Mind-Gap-truth-desire-futureproof/dp/1472267133

A Life Scientific.... with Peter Fonargy

What to do on a wet Sunday but try and catch up with some of the amazing radio shows that I have missed. This morning I caught up with A Life Scientific with Peter Fonargy, someone who I admire enormously (and now secretly have an intellectual crush on). I would highly recommend the show as he explains his own life path but also gives a brilliant introduction to Attachment Theory and also MBT

https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/m000dpj2

So hands up... who is actually having sex these days?

According to recent studies fewer than half of Brits are having sex at least once a week, and the amount of sex we’re all having is declining. Read Sophie Gallagher’s article in the Huff and discuss…. https://www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/entry/were-all-having-less-sex-is-modern-life-to-blame_uk_5cd29003e4b0e524a47d05bb?utm_hp_ref=uk-lifestyle&ncid=newsletter-ukuklifestyle080519&utm_campaign=newsletter-uklifestyle080519

100 Vaginas...... Watch and watch again

A huge round of applause (again) to Laura Dodsworth who challenges the social norms about how we feel about our bodies. In Channel 4’s programme, documentary artist Laura Dodsworth photographs women and hears their intimate, shocking, moving, powerful or funny stories about how their vaginas have shaped their lives. For many it may be uncomfortable viewing but sit through it. Bear the agony of menstrual blood because it is normal and part of almost every woman’s life. Look at the photos of others vagina’s - they are all beautiful and different and should be celebrated.

https://www.channel4.com/programmes/100-vaginas

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Lets talk about anti-depressants....

For anyone who is either on anti depressants or thinking about taking them, or even more critically wondering whether their child needs SSRIs I would really recommend reading Johann Hari’s book Lost Connections https://thelostconnections.com a brilliant look at how we are a society need a much broader menu of deep responses to the pain that people feel, to look at the deep underlying issues why someone might be depressed and address them rather than just block them.