Nancy Friday, the preeminent literary authority on female sexuality, died on November 5th. In her wake she will leave a generation of women who have been able to explore their sexual fantasises without shame. Nancy Friday’s 1973 cult sexuality tome, My Secret Garden: Women’s Sexual Fantasies, is still on the reading list of the MSc I teach, due to its unashamed honesty of what women were and really fantasising about.
A study involving 73 people between the age of 50 and 83 has shown that people who engage in more regular sexual activity scored higher on tests that measured their verbal fluency and their ability to visually perceive objects and the spaces between them.
Participants who engaged in weekly sexual activity sorted the most highly, with the verbal fluency tests showing the strongest effects.
A study of over 7,000 sexually active women aged 16-74 in the British Journal of Obstestrics and Gynaecology suggests that dyspareunia (painful intercouse) is common and affects women of all ages.
This is something that can be helped with proper treatment and i would recommend seeking advice on this either from your doctor or a sex therapist, however embarrassing it might feel.
Painful sex is often linked to other sexual problems such as vaginal dryness, feeling anxious during sex and lack of enjoyment of sex.